Mother's Day Musings
As a kid I never liked Father's Day. Mostly because I didn't have a father around. All the other kids did but I was the only one with divorced parents and my father disappeared when I was about two years old. So that sucked growing up.
As I've gotten older and it has become obvious that I'm never going to be a parent, I'm starting not to like Mother's Day.
Yesterday several people wished me a happy Mother's Day. I'm sure they meant well and being older than say 12 I could very well have children so they probably figured they were being nice. I suppose it is similar to being wished a Merry Christmas when you're not Christian. The phrase simply does not apply to you. In the Mother's Day case it can actually be painful.
I can't have kids. When I was in my early thirties and newly engaged I had surgery and was told if I wanted to get pregnant I'd better do it in the next year or two otherwise forget it. Well we didn't exactly jump on that bandwagon right away and within two years my husband was dead so there you go. No hubby, no kids and too broke to adopt.
So my own mother, again meaning well, thinks I should find me a guy who already has kids. That's all well and good but now I'm n my forties and well, any guy divorced or widowed with kids is going have them at an age where childhood is over. We're talking high school and college - potentially middle school if you're lucky which is trouble just waiting to happen.
Too bad pets can't care for you when your old. You can't pass on what you know to them. It's sad and it's kind of painful to think that your "line" ends with you. Makes me wonder why I keep all my scrapbooks and photographs. In about 40 or 50 years someone will just throw them out.
As I've gotten older and it has become obvious that I'm never going to be a parent, I'm starting not to like Mother's Day.
Yesterday several people wished me a happy Mother's Day. I'm sure they meant well and being older than say 12 I could very well have children so they probably figured they were being nice. I suppose it is similar to being wished a Merry Christmas when you're not Christian. The phrase simply does not apply to you. In the Mother's Day case it can actually be painful.
I can't have kids. When I was in my early thirties and newly engaged I had surgery and was told if I wanted to get pregnant I'd better do it in the next year or two otherwise forget it. Well we didn't exactly jump on that bandwagon right away and within two years my husband was dead so there you go. No hubby, no kids and too broke to adopt.
So my own mother, again meaning well, thinks I should find me a guy who already has kids. That's all well and good but now I'm n my forties and well, any guy divorced or widowed with kids is going have them at an age where childhood is over. We're talking high school and college - potentially middle school if you're lucky which is trouble just waiting to happen.
Too bad pets can't care for you when your old. You can't pass on what you know to them. It's sad and it's kind of painful to think that your "line" ends with you. Makes me wonder why I keep all my scrapbooks and photographs. In about 40 or 50 years someone will just throw them out.
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